Friday, October 14, 2011

Love....and update on doctor's visit

We said I love you today....*swoon*....I knew it was coming soon. He was holding it back because of a story I told about when my ex told me he loved me....I'm thinking now that I should never have told him that story. Regardless...we have admitted our love for each other. I'm all smiles. :)  We've also talked about the upcoming holidays and he is going with me to my family's Thanksgiving Dinner. I'm stunned....I was with James for 4 years and he fought me every time a holiday came around about going to see family. Scott is excited to meet my family and to introduce me to his. :)

As an update to my earlier post about my intestinal issues, I saw my doctor today. I don't have any information yet but she ordered a ton of tests, looking for celiac disease, checking magnesium and other levels, looking for parasites, infection and other things. She said it is going to take some time to get all the results back and we will go from there. So really, I have no information, except to say that she actually wants me to take a softer laxative more often (which surprised me)...she said not to let it get to 4-5 days between movements before taking something stronger.

FitBy40 suggested lactose and gluten intolerance. I can try a gluten tolerance diet but need to get the results back from the celiac test first. I read online that doing the diet will make the allergy test come back negative and could prolong getting a diagnosis. You might be on the right track though, thanks for the suggestion!

Also, my doctor is testing for c.diff due to my history with antibiotics, another great suggestion (thanks Amanda!). She also said to keep up with the probiotics that I started a week ago.

She suggested it could possibly be my gall bladder since I've lost so much weight. She said it is possible for it to be GB without other symptoms but that if it is it would be difficult to justify removing it if I'm not having the acute attacks usually associated with galls stones.

So...that's that for now. I'm looking forward to getting some of these test results back. Thanks for everyone's input!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

In other news…mushy boyfriend related....

Now...after that TMI post...

My budding romance is going well. To answer Lap Band Gal’s question, I told him the first time we went to dinner about the band. He’s had a few questions about it, and apparently knows someone with bypass so has asked how it compares. Our relationship is extremely open, we talk about everything under the sun. I don’t think there is anything at this point he doesn’t know about me.

When it comes to dining together, I’m very fortunate with my current band fill to be able to eat a reasonable quantity of any food without any issues. So the night I made him spaghetti, I was able to partake in a small portion myself. The hard part was not going back for more! I’ve cooked a couple of things for him, and sometimes he lets me just share in his portion which is usually enough for me. He loves my cooking…which I love because I love cooking for someone.

We have just celebrated 3 whole weeks together…feels like longer. We talk about the future all the time. We are uber-mushy with each other…any other guy this would have annoyed the hell out of me this early on but from him I love it. We have not, however, said “the L-word” yet…I’m feeling it though…and I’m fairly certain he is too. He sends me “I <3 you” text messages all the time but he has never said the actual word. We’ve talked around it about 38 different ways….”I’m crazy about you”, “I adore you”, “I’m falling for you”, etc….but no “I love you” yet. I think I might die when we finally say it. :)

I officially updated my Facebook status to “in a relationship” the other day…so the word is out on the street. My ex-flame (RC) even commented on it. It was weird when I saw that he had left a comment, I felt like I should feel something, but I didn’t know what. Maybe that just means I’m finally over him. It only took 3 years and falling for another man to finally get RC out of my system.

I can’t believe I finally met someone that treats me the way I thought I should have been treated all along. He is open, honest, respectful and caring. He is interested in who I am as a person, enough so take the time to get to know me. He contacts me several times a day just to tell me he is thinking of me. It’s weird now when I read old blog posts about RC and how madly in love I was with him…it is striking to see the differences in that relationship versus this one. I’ve never “wished” that Scott would take the initiative to contact me…I’ve never had to because he does it all the time. I’ve never had to ask him to make time to spend with me because he offers it freely. I’ve never had to wonder how he was truly feeling because he tells me regularly. As madly in love with RC as I was, our relationship was flawed from the start. The stark contrast…the finding of someone who is pretty much everything I ever wished for…it’s truly eye-opening. Early on I said that Scott was displaying “Lyall-like qualities”, Lyall being the only GOOD/HEALTHY relationship I’ve ever had. Scott has surpassed even him.

Now…if only we had the same taste in music. LOL

With all this, we are still waiting to introduce me to his girls. If anyone has any advice on how to handle THAT…I’ll take it. He has 2 girls, 2 and 4 years old. At this point, I have suggested (and he has discussed) with the ex that she meet me first when she is ready, because I think this is what I would want if I had children. However, we aren’t going to wait forever for her to come around…but for right now we are ok waiting longer. He is amicable with the ex…I don’t want to jeopardize that in any way. I think their ability to get along is EXTREMELY important to the children. I’m a product of fighting ex’s…I wouldn’t wish that on any child so I will do my part to try to keep this going in a positive direction. I’m scared to death to meet them though. I’m sure you will hear from me when that gets scheduled. I’m a believer in waiting to meet the children until a couple is solid and sure they have a future so as not to chance exposing children to multiple relationships. We have been doing so well that we are both pretty confident in our relationship, but there is no harm in giving it more time. It has, after all, only been 3 weeks.

Last weekend Scott met two of my not-so close friends. This weekend he’s meeting a bunch of very close friends at a game night/potluck. He plans on introducing me to his Mom when she is in town in November, and his best friend is due out from Michigan in November but he is coming the weekend I will be in New Orleans so I will have to wait to meet him another time. I’m dying to meet his sister…he has forwarded emails to me that they have written to each other about me, she seems awesome…hilarious. I think we will get along quite well.

I think that is all to share. Again…feel free to advise how to handle the meeting of the kids/ex-wife. I’ve never gotten this far down a path with a man with kids and ex-wife before, so I’m nervous.

GI Advice Needed – Again, GRAPHIC post! Poopy related!


I see the doctor on Friday…just wondering if others out there have any suggestions/input/ideas of what I should be exploring exactly with the doctor. At this point I’ve created the following list of symptoms to give the doctor. Nothing I research online is matching this exactly because I don’t have any bleeding (for ulcerative colitis) and I don’t have any cramping unless I take a laxative (which is a marker for IBS) so I just don’t know. I’m so tired of this…and I know I won’t get answers when I see the doctor Friday but at least we can start looking into the problem and maybe get some tests ordered.


• Regularity used to include 1-2 BM’s per day, usually in the evening at a minimum. I am now at several a day when I have diarrhea or one small amount every 4-5 days when I’m constipated.
• Alternating constipation/diarrhea (mostly constipation)
• Passing of mucus either alone or in stool
• Something white/light colored visible in stool (I was seriously starting to think I had a worm!)
• Urgency felt but sometimes not able to pass anything, or still feel need to pass something after having gone but not able to pass anything
• Long delay in passing foods (black beans took 11 days to pass, I only know this because I track all my food intake!)
• Extreme fatigue at times (possibly times associated with constipation?). The fatigues does not seem to have anything to do with quantity of sleep the night before, early morning exercise, early morning food consumption, early morning consumption of carbohydrates vs. protein. Fatigue is NOT daily. Some days I feel fantastic, others I can’t stay awake while speaking to people.
• This has been ongoing since early July
• The size/shape of BM has changed…more narrow now on a regular basis when I do finally pass something.
• During times of constipation the weight loss can slow/halt. However, it quickly resolves with a 2-3 lb. loss after evacuation (I know this is not the right way to lose weight, but I have to clear my system out eventually!)
• Full faster at times than others (this could TOTALLY be the band!), with right side mid-back discomfort if too much food eaten (my full signal)...seems more often during times of constipation (but I'm feeling it today, 24 hours after taking a laxative that doesn't appear to be doing anything except making me miserable)
• Some miner aching/gurgling on the left side of my abdomen (usually only after taking a laxative)
• Maybe gassy (but this might be associated with laxative use…I haven’t really tracked if it’s a problem outside of the times I use these.)

I take 1-2 fiber chewables daily, 2 stool softeners (due to another known issue – been taking these daily for over 3 years) daily. I’ve missed multiple days of work due to this issue. My biggest fear is this is somehow band related. I can’t imagine how (except for gastroperesis which perhaps is somehow being triggered by the band???). I have taken a laxative to resolve this issue 4-5 times in the last 3 months. Prior to this issue I would only use laxatives in advance of a surgical procedure, so this is a dramatic change for me. I’ve tried cutting out certain foods, the fiber pills and the stool softener with no change. I’ve also tracked with my cycle to see if hormonal fluctuations are at all correlated but I’ve not found anything to indicate any association.

Additionally, I drink a minimum of 60 oz of water each day and exercise 5-6 days a week, 1 hour a day. Everything I read online says to increase water, exercise and eat 4-6 small meals....well....I already do all that!

So...any input from anyone? Is anyone still reading after all that TMI detail??? Help!


Tuesday, October 4, 2011

So long Lane Bryant...I'm so over you!

Today's outfit...JCP Corduroy pants size 14...that is a missy size 14...not a Women's Plus 14...not a 14W, or even a Lane Bryant's just a plane 'ole 14. The sweater is a Kenneth Cole XL from Costco. And in the "TMI" category, panties are size XL and Bra is 38DDD (down from a 42H originally) from Nordstrom. I'm a little sad to see the bubbies go...but happy in general. :)

So long Lane Bryant!

Weight this morning, 191.6